Everything You Need To Know About Wedding Gift Etiquette!

We are back and ready to share one of the most sought after wedding topics; wedding gift etiquette!   There are a handful of myths out there when it comes to how you should handle wedding registries, gifts and thank you notes both as the couple and the wedding guest.  I am here to debunk those myths so you know just how to handle this hot topic and come out looking like a pro!

Perhaps one the most enjoyable moments while planning your wedding (by both the bride and groom) is creating your wedding gift registry.  Who doesn’t like going into a store with a scanner and creating your ultimate wish list to start your lives together in your new home?  After all, these are items that will help you make memories and travel with you when you go.  My mom actually has an old pea green strainer that she and my dad got for their wedding many moons ago that she brags only costed about $1 but it is still holding up!  Here are some tips to keep in mind when creating your wedding registry.

1.  Try to only pick about two stores so that your guests aren’t overwhelmed thus reducing the risk for duplicate gifts.  An example down south here would be Bed Bath & Beyond, Target or a department store of your choice.  These stores have the most variety of inventory to choose from in one place and often affordable for your guests.

2.  Don’t make your registry too big.  Try to only register for the items that you really need to ensure that you get these.  Towels, cookware, dishes, silverware, ect…are all items that you will certainly use in your new house if you don’t already have them.

3.  Be sure to put the registry under both you and your fiance’s names because as much as you may think all of your guests know both of your names and how to spell them, they don’t!

4.  Do NOT put where you are registered on your formal wedding invitations!  Save it for the bridal shower invitations and rely on word of mouth.

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So, you are all registered!  What is next?  Well, what most wedding guests and wedded couples don’t know is that it is customary for guests to send gifts directly to your home BEFORE the wedding instead of bringing the gift to the wedding.  However, only about 5-10% of your guests actually know and follow this custom.  When they do, it is a great luxury for you because it allows you to unpack the gift before the wedding without having a family member haul it home.  The reality is, about 90% of your wedding gifts will arrive on your wedding day by the guests.  Just be sure you designate at your final walk through a family member or friend with a big enough car to pack the gifts up and take them to your house after the wedding since you will more than likely be on your honeymoon.

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Finally and the perhaps the most important aspect of your wedding gifts are the thank you notes!  Ah…the dreaded thank you notes but these are NOT an exception.  Your wedding guests have spent time and money to share your big day with you and bring you a gift!  There is a myth out there that says you have up to a year to get your thank you notes out.  Well, I hate to break it to you but this is not even close to being true.  Wedding experts advise that you send thank you notes out withing one to two days from receiving the gift at your house.  For those gifts that were brought to the wedding, you ideally want to start working on those thank you notes upon your return from your honeymoon!

Gifts for Your Groom!

Nobody says you have to give your groom a present on the day of the wedding but sometimes the simplest of gifts can be the most meaningful.  These little trinkets can be a great way of reminding each other what the day is really about; the two of you joining your lives together.  It can be hard deciding what to get your groom as a wedding present but here are a few ideas we love.

My favorite idea is to purchase a nice leather journal during the engagement and write a small note every day leading up to the wedding.  Or write a heartfelt letter in the beginning of the journal telling your man how excited you are to become his wife.

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Surprise your groom with a tie embroidered with a special message on the back. He can wear it for the wedding and wear it again and always think of your wedding day!

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To make your fiance laugh, give him a pair of socks to make sure he doesn’t get cold feet!

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If your fiance has a favorite sports team, look to see if you can purchase a brick engraved with his name to be put in the walkways near the stadium.  To some of us girls a brick wouldn’t be the best gift, but to a true fan this is a gift he will love.  Give it with a pair of tickets and it will make this gift even better!

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When you just can’t think of a gift or feel you don’t have any money left after paying for the wedding a card can be the best gift of all.  Write a sweet note and he will love it just as much as any gift.

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Do you have a unique present you are giving your groom?  We want to know!

Best Wedding Gifts for Parents

If your parents are helping with the wedding it is customary to give them a thank you gift.  Buying presents to say thank you for helping you with such an important event in your life can be a difficult task.

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Sometimes the best gifts are the ones that don’t cost a lot of money!   One idea is to write a heartfelt letter or write a list of your favorite memories and frame it as a keepsake.

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Pictures are always a perfect gift for most any parent.  Have your photographer take a picture of you at your bridal session with a sign expressing your thanks!

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Or make a collage of pictures from your family throughout the years.

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If your parents are still married after all these years think about honoring them and the day they got married.  I love this old wedding picture on a plaque with their wedding date!

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Don’t be afraid to get your mom one gift and your dad another.  This handkerchief is perfect for any mother of the bride or groom!

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Another great idea is to buy them a spa treatment or a day at the spa.  Let them relax after all the stresses of planning a wedding.

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If budget allows, a mini vacation is a fantastic gift.  A short getaway after all the planning and expenses will be well needed!

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Which one is your favorite wedding gift?

Do you have a unique parents wedding gift to share?  We want to hear about it!

Happy Planning!