The Top 5 Wedding Etiquette Mistakes!

Wedding etiquette and traditions vary widely across the world for different reasons.  I will be the first to point out that traditions and etiquette have been broken over the past few decades.  However, I am a firm believer in tradition as many of our etiquette guidelines were established for a reason.  Weather it be to honor a culture or simply make a seemingly stressful day one that everyone can enjoy.  So, what are the most influential mistakes that both the bride/groom and their guests make?  Well, I am here to tell you the top five mistakes made!  Take note.

First:  Bringing the wedding gift to the wedding.  It is actually customary to mail the wedding gift prior to the wedding day (guest mistake).  This not only allows the bride and groom to unpack and address thank you cards before the big day, it also alleviates lugging all those wedding gifts home with a family member at the end of the night.

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Second:  Not sending a thank you note for ANY gift you received for your wedding.  This is a BIG no – no!  Believe me, as much as I could care less if my friend sends me a thank you note, there are those that take it very seriously (especially older family members).  Kidding aside, this is probably one of the rudest mistakes that you can make.  While they love you very much, all of your guests took time and money out of their life to witness your wedding day and a simple thank you for coming and for the gift is the least you can do.

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Third:  Not offering enough food at your wedding!  I know, I know, weddings are expensive these days and you want to have enough money to buy that beautiful dress, flowers, cake, ect…  However, be warned that if you chose to skimp on your wedding fare, it will NOT go unnoticed.  I am guilty of this even after over 15 years in the wedding industry, I still get disappointed when I come hungry to a wedding and there is not a sufficient amount of food.  Point is, don’t leave your guests hungry!

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Fourth:  Being late to the ceremony!!  You can go ahead and put this at the top of your list on things NOT to do at a wedding.  Being late is perhaps the most over looked expectation at a wedding.  The couple has spent A LOT of money on their big day and there are many factors that are affected when things don’t run in a timely manner; i.e. dinner could be delayed and not fresh, they may have only paid for a certain amount of time in the ceremony space, the whether could be sketchy, ect…  So, do everyone a favor and arrive at least 15-30 minutes prior to the ceremony start time.  This also ensures that you will get a good seat and not walking in the same time the bride is!

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Lastly:  Not R.S.V.Ping to the wedding!  Guys…this is everything!  Since it is customary at most weddings to provide each guests with an escort card, sending in your RSVP is very important.  Bottom line, if you don’t RSVP, you will not have a seat in the reception.  Which means that you are not accounted for in the food and beverage count either.  There is nothing more embarrassing that not having a seat and the staff having to scramble to find you a seat and possibly collecting more money from the bride and groom on wedding day.  Save everyone the trouble and put the already self-addressed envelope back in the mail!

Boutonnieres…Because Men Need Some Love Too!

Often times in weddings we get so caught up in the beautiful bride and all the other details that we forget about the guys!  They are a huge part of the wedding; especially the groom.  The word boutonniere comes from the French and was originally known as the button hole flower because it was worn through the button hole of the lapel.  Today, it is simply pinned on the lapel of the jacket.  Wedding bouquets and boutonnieres became a tradition with the belief that they would ward off bad smells, diseases and evil spirits.  

Early on in your wedding planning process, you will schedule an appointment with a florist to go over your vision.  Make sure you take advantage of all the resources on the internet these days like Pinterest and Wedding Gawker!  Getting a visual and being able to express that to your florist will make it much easier on you and ensure that you are getting exactly what you have in mind.  Keep in mind while researching different flowers that many of them come in several different colors and sometimes shapes.  Therefore, if you like something but it does not exactly tie in with your color scheme, be sure to ask the florist because chances are, there is an option to get that flower in a color that you want.

One more piece of advice when choosing the boutonnieres is to be sure they directly tie in with the other flowers.  For example, if the bride’s bouquet contains light pink dhalias, white rannunculus, purple lisianthus, light yellow roses, queen anne’s lace and lavender freesia, the boutonniere could be something like this:  a white ranunculus accented with some lavender freesia and queen anne’s lace!

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A delicate light pink tulip accented with wax flowers and greenery

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Rare chocolate cosmo with accents

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Purple Lisianthus with a stem of wheat wrapped in twine

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Yellow rannunculus with whimsical accents

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Blue Thistle, purple lisianthus and accents wrapped in twine

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Notice here how the groom’s boutonniere ties directly in with the bride’s bouquet

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A light pink rose accented by wax flowers, peach hypericum berries and wrapped in twine

I hope you enjoyed these inspirations and we would be happy to name that flower for you if you have a question!

Happy Planning!

It’s All in the Details: Wooden Wedding Signs!

One of my favorite new decor elements that brides all over are incorporating in to their weddings are wooden wedding signs!

I have always said that weddings that make the biggest impact don’t overlook the details.  Wooden wedding signs, although a small detail, are a great way to bring character and personality in to your wedding. I think they are the perfect compliment to a rustic, vintage or garden wedding.  The best part is that they are an easy DIY project that anyone can do!

There are so many ways to use wooden weddings signs in your wedding and I have listed some of my favorite ways you can use them at your wedding!

One way brides are using wooden signs is for directional signs.  If your wedding venue is spread out and you want to help guests know where things are located (i.e. ceremony, reception, etc.) you can make wooden signs that not only look great but are helpful as well. I love the idea of making something functional, like a directional sign, that could be quite boring in to something that enhances the wedding theme.

Another functional way to use wooden signs is for the menu!

You can also use a wooden sign during your ceremony.  How cute is this sign for the ringbearer (or your pooch) that says “Here Comes the Bride”?

Another way to incorporate a wooden sign is to use them on the back of your chairs during the reception!

If you want to add a pop of color in your decor, you can always paint the wooden sign a bright color.

And some of the best ways to make your wooden signs stand out is to come up with a cute, humorous saying to paint on it, like the sign below.

If you are using a wooden sign in a unique way, we would love to hear about it!

Happy Planning!

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