The Top 5 Wedding Etiquette Mistakes!

Wedding etiquette and traditions vary widely across the world for different reasons.  I will be the first to point out that traditions and etiquette have been broken over the past few decades.  However, I am a firm believer in tradition as many of our etiquette guidelines were established for a reason.  Weather it be to honor a culture or simply make a seemingly stressful day one that everyone can enjoy.  So, what are the most influential mistakes that both the bride/groom and their guests make?  Well, I am here to tell you the top five mistakes made!  Take note.

First:  Bringing the wedding gift to the wedding.  It is actually customary to mail the wedding gift prior to the wedding day (guest mistake).  This not only allows the bride and groom to unpack and address thank you cards before the big day, it also alleviates lugging all those wedding gifts home with a family member at the end of the night.

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Second:  Not sending a thank you note for ANY gift you received for your wedding.  This is a BIG no – no!  Believe me, as much as I could care less if my friend sends me a thank you note, there are those that take it very seriously (especially older family members).  Kidding aside, this is probably one of the rudest mistakes that you can make.  While they love you very much, all of your guests took time and money out of their life to witness your wedding day and a simple thank you for coming and for the gift is the least you can do.

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Third:  Not offering enough food at your wedding!  I know, I know, weddings are expensive these days and you want to have enough money to buy that beautiful dress, flowers, cake, ect…  However, be warned that if you chose to skimp on your wedding fare, it will NOT go unnoticed.  I am guilty of this even after over 15 years in the wedding industry, I still get disappointed when I come hungry to a wedding and there is not a sufficient amount of food.  Point is, don’t leave your guests hungry!

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Fourth:  Being late to the ceremony!!  You can go ahead and put this at the top of your list on things NOT to do at a wedding.  Being late is perhaps the most over looked expectation at a wedding.  The couple has spent A LOT of money on their big day and there are many factors that are affected when things don’t run in a timely manner; i.e. dinner could be delayed and not fresh, they may have only paid for a certain amount of time in the ceremony space, the whether could be sketchy, ect…  So, do everyone a favor and arrive at least 15-30 minutes prior to the ceremony start time.  This also ensures that you will get a good seat and not walking in the same time the bride is!

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Lastly:  Not R.S.V.Ping to the wedding!  Guys…this is everything!  Since it is customary at most weddings to provide each guests with an escort card, sending in your RSVP is very important.  Bottom line, if you don’t RSVP, you will not have a seat in the reception.  Which means that you are not accounted for in the food and beverage count either.  There is nothing more embarrassing that not having a seat and the staff having to scramble to find you a seat and possibly collecting more money from the bride and groom on wedding day.  Save everyone the trouble and put the already self-addressed envelope back in the mail!

Fruit In Your Wedding Decor?

When it comes to wedding trends, they come and go then come and go again.  Trends don’t have to be followed but it is difficult to ignore them in our era of Pinterest and social media.  People want to keep up with the times as well as save as much money as they can on their weddings.  Besides food and alcohol, flowers can be one of the high priced ticket categories when planning your wedding.  Luckily, fruit in weddings is making a huge comeback and I am not mad at that!  With it’s naturally vibrant colors and dimensions, it is an easy and inexpensive way to bring a pop of color to your wedding day.

So, how do you incorporate fruit in your wedding without it being cheesy and predictable?

1. Use it whole, tucked inside centerpieces and bouquets.

2. Cut it in half to expose a different shade on the inside and usually a more bold color.  Just make sure when you do this, that you apply the appropriate amount of citric acid to avoid drying out.  A good idea is to keep a spray bottle on hand with warm water and lemon juice and spray frequently to keep the fruit hydrated.

3. Using small fruit such as dark cherries, ripe blueberries and huckleberries is a great way to get that “hanging” look which can mimic some of the most expensive flowers.

4.  Use fruit in a BIG way:  instead of a predictable finger food station, create a farmers market feel and include baskets of fruit for guests to enjoy.  Also, creating a specialty cocktail with beautiful fruit is a show stopper!

Enjoy these ideas!

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Wedding Inspiration: Origami Paper Cranes

Brides all over are using origami paper cranes as decoration for their wedding!  Why origami cranes?  In the Asian culture cranes are a symbol of happiness, longevity and peace.  It is said that 1000 paper cranes will give you a thousand years of happiness and prosperity together!!  How cool is that?

Origami cranes not only have an awesome meaning but they are also beautiful decoration.  Hanging strings of origami cranes make a stunning backdrop for any ceremony.

How beautiful are these cranes hanging from this 100 year old tree?

They also serve as a great backdrop for photographs!

I love the idea of using an origami crane as the escort cards!

Or they can double as a favor for the guests to take home with them!

If you are crafty gal these origami cranes are a great DIY project.  If you aren’t so crafty, like me, websites such as Esty are my saving grace and will have a great variety of papers and colors to choose from!

What do you think of incorporating this Asian tradition in to your wedding?

We would love to hear your thoughts!

Happy Planning!

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